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Flowing toward happiness

"The First Draft of Anything is always shit"

Earnest Hemmingway

"The First Draft of Anything is always shit"

Earnest Hemmingway

Fear is the gatekeeper of flow.  So if we're going to try scary new things or test out different approaches we need find ways to "trick" our way around fear since removing it isn't an option.  Luckily for us, Fear is easily tricked because it's really dumb.  Dumb jock like dumb.  Yes, spooky but coolest.

Here's 3 easy ways to trick fear.

Explore around: Ever see that Star Trek episode where Kirk accidentally crashes the Enterprise into an alien village thus killing their queen and Spock has to tell Kirk to stop apologing because the confused aliens don't have cultural concept of a mistake being a bad (or good) thing. Now delete the concept of failure from your worldview. It's easy to do. All you have to do is commit to frame everything in terms of Exploring, Experimenting or Playing. It's ok to crash into a few planets when you're out exploring the galaxy.

20 Minute Rule: As any running nut will tell you - it's much harder to stop after 20 minutes than starting at zero. Similarly, finding the time and confidence to either explore big ideas or tackle dreadful tasks (like taxes) are hard to get going on. Do this trick - put on some good tunes, set your timer for 20 minutes and promise yourself that you must stop before the timer goes off. 9 out of ten times you'll break that promise because your in flow.

Pick one mind a week: Everyone likes getting their mind picks. It makes people feel valued. Send one email out a week to someone that you think is interesting to talk about something that's interesting to you. It can be someone you know or not. Big, small, famous, homeless - it doesn't matter - you just have to find them interesting. Just send them a 4 line mail explaining that you'd like to pick their mind about something you're exploring. The response